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Getting Past Abusing the Other Woman
Whew! You never thought your relationship would have to embark upon such extreme measures, but then again, you didn't think the girl was actually something to worry about. He promised you time and time again that she wasn't his type, and you believed him. Afterall, she has those busted-up teeth, split ends, and clothes... well her outfits are cute, but they can't hold a swarovski crystal studded mirror to yours. Of course, you won't be seeing them, or her around anymore; not after the butt-whupping you imposed upon her. Honestly, physical abuse is not your style... or intent, yet for some reason she drove you there. I understand.You'd seen and heard her name and likeness one too many times concerning your man, and it donned on you that she might be moving in on your territory all while you're sitting duck, holding onto his promises.
And then you saw her, too close for comfort, and that's when the camel's back broke. I know how you felt when your special "him" and his friends quickly jumped in and separated the two of you. She shed tears, innocent bystanders were struck, and you even managed to clock your love with a shot or two. Intentional -well justified- shots. The cops came, everyone disbursed, and now it's just him and, a sore, you. Should you start in on his ear? Break up with him and threaten the vengeance of all your male acquaintances? Wreck havoc on his possessions? Or test out some of those boxing techniques your brothers showed you? Actually, here are some tips to use when this situation rears its ugly head:
#1 Communicate The Anger
This one goes without saying. There is no way the two of you are going to sit in each others face and not have a very heated conversation. I've seen numerous guests, when working on the Springer Show, physically handle their whacked up issues in front of thousands. But remember to try and calm down and refrain from further violence because that could land you in a very bad legal situation. Tell him how serious you are about him (although, he now sees), and what you expect from him. And then delve into the hard-to-hear details of his and the other woman's relationship; you're doing this to try and find out what she did and how often she did it. Don't waste your time trying to figure out how long the cheating has been going on -it's irrelevant, unless you want to feel even more used- or what made him want to do it, because the obvious answer is access to vagina. At this point, you should be deciding if you want to stay or leave, although this may be hard because right now his ego is through the roof and his respect goes to the winner. When you decide to stay, use the information you've gathered about their relationship to trump her jezebel effects. This isn't a reward for him, but a strategy to keep your relationship going strong.
#2 Don't Tighten The Leash- Let Others Do It
Your man expects you to be totally unforgiving and paranoid of his whereabouts. Flip the script. Allow the news of your "whatever-it-takes" physical attitude to ring true in his ears. If he altercation took place in front of others and you came out as a loser, move on! The relationship is not worth fighting for, and if it was, you've lost anyway, so... But if you came out on top, all of his male associates will be reminding him of your loyalty and standing guard for you. "Man, (your name) gonna whup her butt, if she catch her around here. You know (your name) is crazy about you, and this time she'll probably go after you!" Fortunately, your man is not trying to intentionally hurt you when he pulls down his pants and distribute his member to others, it's just that his innate need to conquer, coupled with pressure to impress his peers has got him losing his mind. But a little recollection of the woman he has at home will put his wandering eye at bay- at least for a little while.
#3 Raise The Bar
After he's seen your new trusting side and sexual uninhibited-ness, he'll start to feel pressure from others ragging on him about you and he'll take that as a cue to step out. This is the point where you need to explore your socializing networks and get some of your own male attention, but in a way that he'll recognize. It is possible that you have the type of man that wants his woman to show her tail for his affection. DO NOT be this woman, unless you feel you have invested a lot in him and have nothing else to lose- including a clean criminal record. In which case, it would be best to start dropping off your crazy relationship situations at http://www.libidontsandstyle.com for personalized ways to handle every style of relationship. The blog details on how to move on and play both ends of the stick; physically demand his fidelity and then secretly commit infidelity. However, it's much more sophisticated -less thrilling, though- to move on because you've already proved you are the baddest chick when it comes to fighting for your man, now it's time to prove that you're the baddest, most ready when it comes to playing the game of true, reciprocated love.
About the Author
I'm a published author of relationship articles and poetry, and am a former television editor who's also worked on The Jerry Springer Show